3 Helpful Things to Know When Dealing with a Second Unplanned Pregnancy in Kansas

Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be a stressful experience. When you’re dealing with a second, third or fourth unplanned pregnancy, it can be even more overwhelming. You likely have plenty of questions swarming through your brain, such as:

                                                                                                       

• Can I place a second child up for adoption? What about placing a third or fourth child?
• If I already have other children, then how will this affect them?
• How will I explain my decision to my friends and family?

 

We are going to answer all of these questions. You can rest easy because adoption is always an option. There is a big misunderstanding that only young, single women on their first unplanned pregnancy choose adoption. That’s not the case at all.

 

Putting a second child up for adoption in Kansas, or even a third or fourth child, is much more common than you would think. Adoption is a heroic, selfless and brave decision made out of profound love for your child.

 

Many women who are older and already parenting choose adoption for their babies, and many women also choose adoption for more than one pregnancy. If you are wondering how choosing adoption for your second unplanned pregnancy in Kansas works, we created this guide of three helpful things to know.

 

If you have any questions as you’re reading along, then please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-ADOPTION to speak with one of our experienced adoption professionals. We would love to help you at any time! You can also get more free information now. In the meantime, here are three tips for coping with an unplanned second pregnancy in Kansas.

1. You Can Choose Adoption for Your Unplanned Second Pregnancy in Kansas

Many prospective birth mothers come to us wondering if they can choose adoption for their second, third and sometimes their unplanned fourth pregnancy in Kansas. No matter how many times you’ve chosen adoption before, you can always choose it again.

American Adoptions of Kansas works with plenty of people who already have children. A common reason that prospective birth mothers choose adoption is that they feel they can’t provide for another child right now. They figure that, if they are unable to parent right now, then they can help another family realize their dreams of parenthood. This is what, Candice, a birth mother who worked with our agency, did.

“Jeff and Amanda are wonderful, and I am so thankful I could give them such a gift,” she said. “We still email, and I get pictures. Our little boy is so handsome. They are amazing parents, and I know my son has a huge family who loves and cares so much for him. I am forever thankful for that. Jeff and Amanda saved my baby’s life! With having three kids already, I know what I needed to do. They deserve a beautiful family, and I am so happy they trusted me to give them that.”

2. How to Explain Your Unplanned Third Pregnancy in Kansas to Your Children

When facing an unwanted second pregnancy or dealing with an unplanned third pregnancy in Kansas, a lot of parents worry about how choosing adoption again will affect their children. As prospective birth mothers create an adoption plan, they may wonder how they’ll explain all of this to their kids.

Putting a second child up for adoption can be confusing for children, but kids are adaptable and resilient. In other words, it could be a smoother experience than you may expect. As you go through your adoption process, be sure to speak with your adoption professional. They will help you determine how to talk to your children about your decision. They can guide you through what you’ll say exactly, and they can even arrange adoption counseling and support for whenever you may need it.

Even though speaking with a professional is the best way to find an answer to this question, here are some pointers that can steer you in the right direction:

• Talk about adoption early in your pregnancy. You can explain adoption to your children on more of a general level, and, once they have a better understanding of it, you can tell them about your decision.
• Explain why you’re choosing adoption. Use positive adoption language when describing your choice and how you’re providing a child for another family to help them make their parenting dreams come true.
• Involve your children in your adoption journey. If you want, then you can include your children when you’re browsing online adoptive parent profiles. You can also get to know the adoptive family together.

Although there is not a precise timeline for explaining a second unplanned pregnancy in Kansas to your children, you can use the tips above as a solid starting point.

3. Your Options for a Second Unplanned Pregnancy in Kansas

Whether you’re dealing with a second unplanned pregnancy or even a third or fourth unplanned pregnancy, you have the same three unplanned pregnancy options that someone with their first pregnancy has. Generally, you can choose parenting, abortion or adoption. We’ll go over each in some more detail below:

Parenting

If you already have children, then one of the first things you should consider is if you’re ready to parent another child. As you probably already know, parenting is expensive. You will need to make sure that you are financially capable of providing for another child. Also, you’ll need to consider if you have the time to raise another child. On the other hand, adoption is always free for prospective birth mothers. Call 1-800-ADOPTION to learn more.

Abortion

When you’re researching abortion, be sure to familiarize yourself with Kansas’ abortion laws so that you know what’s available to you. Also, talk to your doctor beforehand so that they can address any health concerns if necessary. If you are too late in your pregnancy to make abortion feasible, then there is another option for you where you don’t have to parent.

Adoption

For people dealing with an unplanned third pregnancy or fourth pregnancy, adoption is still an option. Through open adoption, you can develop a lifelong bond with your child and their adoptive family. The adoptive parents will be forever thankful for you for helping them become parents. Adoption isn’t simple, but it is rewarding.

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To learn more about adoption for your unplanned second pregnancy in Kansas, give us a call at 1-800-ADOPTION. You’ll speak with one of our experienced adoption professionals who would love to help you at any hour. You can also get free adoption information now.

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